How it works
Three steps between the call and the table.
Dating MOU sits in the gap the apps leave open — after you've heard their voice, before you've booked the evening.
01
Send the invite
The first call went well. Instead of jumping straight to "so… dinner Thursday?", either of you sends a Dating MOU invite from the app.
The invite itself is a signal: I'm serious enough to ask. If they decline, that's information too — and it cost you nothing but a tap.
Invitation
Sam invited you to a Dating MOU
14 questions · under 8 minutes to complete. You answer alone — nothing is shared until you've both finished.
Your partner texts at 4pm: "Pack a bag — surprise weekend, we leave at 6." Honest gut reaction:
02
Both answer, apart
Around 14 questions, under 8 minutes — what you actually do: how you fight, how you spend, what you're honestly looking for right now. Scenarios, not personality-test abstractions.
Answers stay sealed until you've both finished. No editing yours after seeing theirs — that's the whole point.
03
Talk before you meet
You both get the same Connect Report: every question, side by side. Most rows will simply feel good. The ones that don't come with a guided conversation for your next call — a script-starter, not a scorecard.
Aligned — enjoy it; this is what compatibility looks like on paper
Close — a difference worth knowing, rarely worth worrying
Talk first — a real gap; have this conversation before the date
Guided conversation · Looking for
"Sam, you said marriage-track. Alex, you said seeing where it goes. Before you meet, each answer one thing: what would need to be true, six months from now, for this to feel right?"
15 minutes · on your next call · no wrong answers
Why now
A mismatch found early is cheap. Found late, it costs years.
Everyone's on their best behavior at the start. The questions that decide it — money, kids, faith, intimacy, what you're actually looking for — feel too heavy for date one. So they wait. And waiting is expensive.
Found on date one
Found in month six
The dress rehearsal
However you date is how it's going to go down long-term.
Dating is the dress rehearsal for marriage, partnership — whatever long-term looks like for you. You don't get to the serious part without a good dating experience, and you don't get a good dating experience by guessing.
Getting on the same page early isn't unromantic. It's the most respectful thing you can do with someone's time — including yours.
The questions nobody asks on date one
- Marriage-track, or seeing where it goes?
- Kids — more, some, none?
- Who pays, and what does it mean?
- How do you fight?
- What are you most afraid of?
All of them are in the MOU. Answered apart, compared together.
All 14 questionsReading your dashboard
Each connection card shows exactly where things stand.
You've both finished. Open the card to see your Connect Report.
You're done; they haven't finished yet. Send a gentle nudge from the card.
They finished first. Pick up where you left off — the card shows your progress.
Never a verdict
No compatibility score, no grade. Every mismatch becomes a conversation prompt.
Behavioral, not aspirational
Questions ask what you do and have done — not what you think you should want.
No right answers
Traditional or 50/50, spontaneous or planned — every position is just a position.
Private until mutual
Your answers are shared only with each other, and only once you've both finished.