You are about to answer honest questions. Here is what happens to the answers.

Everything below is something you type, choose, or upload — we do not buy data about you from anyone, and we do not build a profile of you from other sites.

Your partner sees nothing until you have both finished. While either of you is still answering, the other cannot see your answers, your progress, or which questions you skipped. There is no preview and no partial reveal.

Once you have both finished, the seal opens both ways at once. You each see the same thing: your two answer sets side by side, plus an agreement drafted from them. Neither of you can edit an answer after that point — that restriction is the reason the comparison means anything.

Nobody else sees it unless you decide otherwise. A report is private to the two of you. If you choose to create a share link, anyone holding that link can read that report — so treat it like a document, not a password. You can disable the link at any time from the report page, and disabling it cuts off everyone using it.

When you both finish, we email each of you a copy of the report automatically. Email is not a secure channel; if that matters to you, consider that copy as living in your inbox permanently.

Our staff. A small number of our people can access account records through an internal admin tool — to fix a broken account, investigate abuse, or comply with the law. We do not read answer sets for any other reason.

The MOU creates no legal obligation. It is not a contract, not a prenup, and not a substitute for advice from a lawyer or a therapist. Neither of you is bound by anything in it, and neither of you has anything to enforce. If one of you does the opposite of what you wrote, that is a conversation to have — it is not a breach of anything.

It is a record of what two people said they wanted, on one day, in their own words. That is the entire point of it, and it is also the limit of it.

What that does not mean. “Not a contract” is a statement about what the document obliges you to do. It is not a promise about what could ever be asked for in a legal process — no honest service can promise that about anything you write down and store, and we are not going to pretend otherwise. If you are heading into a prenup, a dispute, or anything else with a lawyer attached, treat what you write here the way you would treat any other written record, and ask that lawyer.

We run on other companies' infrastructure. Each of these sees only the slice it needs, and each is bound by its own contract with us. Most are based in the United States; where one is not, it is named below with the country it operates from, because that is the part you cannot look up for yourself.

The company that drafts your MOU is currently Anthropic PBC, in the United States. We can change AI provider, and this page names whichever one is live rather than whichever one we happened to start with — so it is worth re-reading if that matters to you.

Go to your account page and use Delete account. It takes effect immediately — there is no waiting period and no email to send us.

What deletion removes: your account and login, your profile, your photo, your entire answer set, and every connection you are part of — whether you sent the invite or received it — including its invite, its report, its MOU, and any share link. Your partner's copy of a shared report goes too: an MOU is drafted from both people's answers, so there is no version of it left that is not partly yours.

What survives, and why:

You can also delete a single connection without closing your account. Either person can leave a connection from the dashboard, which removes it and its report for both of you. If you paid for an invite the other person never started, the credit returns to you.

Depending on where you live — the UK, the EU, California and several other US states — you have the right to see the personal data we hold about you, correct it, delete it, object to how we use it, and receive a copy in a portable form.

Deletion you can do yourself, immediately, from your account page. For access, correction, or a copy of your data, email hello@datingmou.com and we will respond within 30 days. We will never charge you for a request or make you justify it.

If you are in the UK or EU, our lawful basis is performance of our contract with you for the answers and reports that make the product work, and legitimate interest for security and product analytics. You can complain to your local data protection authority if you think we have got this wrong.

Your account, profile, answers, and reports stay until you delete them or ask us to. We do not expire them on a timer — an MOU you wrote two years ago is often the reason to come back to it.

Invites that are never accepted stay with the connection until it is deleted. Analytics events are retained in aggregate. Backups are kept for up to 30 days, so deleted data can persist in a backup for that long before it ages out.

Passwords are hashed with bcrypt and never stored in a readable form. Traffic is encrypted in transit. Access to production data is limited to the people who need it. No system is perfect, and we will not claim ours is — if we ever discover a breach affecting your data, we will tell you and the relevant regulator.

Dating MOU is for adults. You must be 18 or older to create an account. If we learn that we hold data from someone under 18, we delete it.

If we change how we handle your data in a way that matters, we will update the date at the top of this page and email you before the change takes effect. Continuing to use Dating MOU after that means you accept the updated policy.

Questions about any of this go to hello@datingmou.com. A real person reads it.