Guides
Field guides to dating on purpose — what to ask before a first date, and how to ask it. No scores, no tactics; just the questions that save the evening for the right people.
A field guide
25 questions to ask before a first date
Twenty-five questions to ask before a first date — about intent, money, conflict, and what you each actually want — so the evening is a decision, not a gamble.
The alignment check
20 compatibility questions for dating
Twenty compatibility questions for dating, organized by what actually predicts alignment: money, family, conflict, daily life, and intent. Ask them early.
Past the small talk
Deep questions to ask before a first date
Fifteen deep questions to ask before a first date — about fear, the past, change, and honesty — for when you'd rather know who someone is than what they do.
The step most people skip
The conversation before the first date
How to have the conversation before the first date: what to cover, how to start it without killing the spark, and why it makes the date better, not worse.
The philosophy
Intentional dating, explained
What intentional dating actually means: dating with a stated purpose, honest questions asked early, and decisions made on information instead of momentum.
Know your limits
The relationship deal breakers list
A relationship deal breakers list worth keeping: hard limits, values, behavior, and lifestyle — plus how to tell a real deal breaker from a preference in a bad mood.
The real signal
How to know if you're compatible
How to know if you're compatible with someone: the four signals that predict it, the false positives that don't, and the questions that surface the answer early.
The forward conversation
How to talk about the future while dating
How to talk about the future while dating without proposing or panicking: when to raise it, exact opening lines, and how to read the answer you get.
The Dating MOU: 14 questions, answered apart, compared together — before the first date.