The questions

They grow up with you.

What matters at 25 isn't what matters at 55. Your set is built from the same honest constructs, re-weighted for your season of life — 14 questions, under 8 minutes.

18–30
30–40
40–60
60–70
70+
Attraction
Direction & drive
Low drama
Peace & life stage
Companionship
Shared history
Less weight
More weight

Patterns & what lasts

How you fight, what you're afraid of, what you're actually looking for.

Money & the check

Who pays, how you spend, what money means to each of you.

Intimacy & affection

Ideal frequency, how central it is, everyday affection.

Lifestyle & habits

Health, activity, date nights out, drinking, smoking, cannabis.

A taste of them

THE AWKWARD PART · CHOICE

The check lands on the first date. Your honest instinct?

My treat — I askedSplit it, no ceremonyWhoever invited pays

CONFLICT · CHOICE

Mid-argument, you're more likely to…

Push to settle it nowNeed space, then returnSmooth it over, revisit never

LIFESTYLE · NUMBER

Date nights out per month — your ideal?

−4+

Your voice, your call

One voice, questions to MOU.

When you sign up you pick one voice — it shapes how every question and answer is worded, and it's the same voice your MOU is written in. From warm to fully unfiltered.

Warm & hopeful"How do you feel about who covers the first date?"
Straight to the point"The check lands. What’s your instinct?"
Unfiltered"$8 boba on date one. They watch you pay. Dealbreaker?"
Light & playful"Two straws, one bill. Who’s reaching?"
Gentle Roast"Check’s here. Fight me for it or split it — quit stalling."

Tuned to you

Culturally aware, never generic.

Onboarding asks about your cultural context, and the phrasing and examples adapt — the constructs underneath stay identical, so any two people can still compare.

Universal anchors — trust, what lasts, who pays, the quiet truth — recur in every set. That's what makes two reports comparable across ages and backgrounds.

What comes out

One agreement, five voices.

When you both finish, AI turns 24 honest answers into your MOU — what you already agree on, the few things worth talking about, and the exact line to open with. Here's Sam & Alex's, in every voice you could pick.

Memorandum of Understanding

Sam & Alex

Drafted by AI
Voice: Warm & hopeful

You did the honest part before the nervous part — fourteen answers each, written alone. Most of what matters, you already share. Three things deserve care, and each comes with a way in. Nothing here is a verdict; it's a head start.

We already agree

  1. After a fight, you both reach out first. Neither of you lets things go cold — keep that.
  2. The same things keep you both: feeling seen, and laughing. Protect them on purpose.
  3. You each need two or three evenings alone a week. Solitude isn't distance — it's already agreed.

Still in negotiation

  1. Under pressure, one of you talks it through; the other goes quiet. To close it: agree on a signal for “I need 20 minutes, and I'll come back” — before you need it.
  2. The check: paying is care to one, splitting is respect to the other. To close it: each say what it means, then set a rule for date one only.
  3. One fears losing themselves; the other fears being left. To close it: name both fears out loud early — they shrink when they're not secrets.

Sam

Read & acknowledged

Alex

Signs over dinner

Openers — say these on the date

  • “When things get hard I go quiet — but I always come back. What do you do?”
  • “Paying the check means something to me. What does it mean to you?”
  • “Can I tell you the thing I'm most afraid of? You go second.”

Answered apart

Sealed until you've both finished. No peeking, no editing after.

Never a verdict

No score, no grade. Gaps become guided conversations.

Skip what you must

Only questions you both answered appear in the report.

Ready when you are.

Start the questions